Rules of engagement...

ok... so as i was typing, i began thinking about people who might leave comments, and maybe they would not be nice about it... so that got my mind to wandering (thus the title) that i live by a few rules... mostly boundaries, i would actually call them... and , within those boundaries, the ones i hold to most tightly are the ones I call my rules of engagement... So when i interact with people, and more importantly, fight or disagree with them, i play fair... and i insist that everyone else play fair also...

so what does that look like, well it look likes this... no name calling, no personal attacks, no degrading of anothers opinion, you may talk about your feeling and i will talk about mine, but neither one of us may tell the other "how" they should feel about it... if someone begins to feel overwhelmed, it is ok to walk away and come back to the subject later... but you may NOT (yeah, this is a big one), you may NOT bring up things from the past... it is in the past, and that is where it belongs... you need to debate about what is going on now, not stuff that happened 3 years ago that you are sill sore about... no tit for tat...

so try it out... see how it changes what you say to your friends and your significant others...
be nice... and hug a tree...

Wanderings

Today was such a great day. I was up at 8:30 am, without an alarm clock... I was excited to get the day started... It was going to be beautiful weather... I would be working in the garden... there would be friends and family around. What more could I ask for. So my day started and despite significant pain...I got up and going. I put the grid on my boxes for my garden (vegetables) . Z and I put up the Trelises for the climbing plants. Mom came over to watch the kids. Then K/K and Scrapbooking J arrived, followed shortly by J from work. There was a plethora of activity. there was planting and putting in the new grape arbor and grass cutting and lawn mowers breaking down and gettin fixed and breaking down again.... There was much laughter and tons of thanks. And at the end of the day... EVERYTHING that needed to get done today was done.
We are blessed with greatness and friendship.