ok... so as i was typing, i began thinking about people who might leave comments, and maybe they would not be nice about it... so that got my mind to wandering (thus the title) that i live by a few rules... mostly boundaries, i would actually call them... and , within those boundaries, the ones i hold to most tightly are the ones I call my rules of engagement... So when i interact with people, and more importantly, fight or disagree with them, i play fair... and i insist that everyone else play fair also...
so what does that look like, well it look likes this... no name calling, no personal attacks, no degrading of anothers opinion, you may talk about your feeling and i will talk about mine, but neither one of us may tell the other "how" they should feel about it... if someone begins to feel overwhelmed, it is ok to walk away and come back to the subject later... but you may NOT (yeah, this is a big one), you may NOT bring up things from the past... it is in the past, and that is where it belongs... you need to debate about what is going on now, not stuff that happened 3 years ago that you are sill sore about... no tit for tat...
so try it out... see how it changes what you say to your friends and your significant others...
be nice... and hug a tree...
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